Husband ignores me I feel no love!?

you know..based on what I have read, it seems to me that your husband might be slightly autistic- like maybe asperger's syndrome or something. that could be the reason why he lacks the spontaneity, you said yourself that if you tell him about your feelings then he does try so it doesn't seem like he is doing it maliciously. It could of course just be cultural differences or the way that he was brought up. Please seek some good counseling so that you might at least find out if it is something like asperger's or if it is just the way he views things, then you can be better informed so that you can decide what you want to do then. I am sorry. I hope that things work out for you.